We all hear the talk about gratitude, it’s one of the ‘buzzwords’ these days, but do you get why it is so crucial? One of my colleagues has an evocative phrase, “gratitude melts barriers”. Wow! Do you ‘feel’ the energy of that? What if we chose that – always? Do you think your life would change?
Gratitude and judgment cannot co-exist. Can you imagine how differently you could walk through your day – your world – with the attitude of gratitude for everything? The non-judgement of everything, including and especially yourself! The good, the bad, the ugly, the wonderful, the embarrassing, the joyful, the humdrum? What else could you create while your gratitude melts all the barriers you meet every day? People are attracted to that space of non-judgement and gratitude like bees to nectar and sometimes are even inspired to do the same – often without you saying anything! I can attest that my deliberately choosing gratitude for my husband in gnarly situations changed the energy for both of us and literally reestablished the joy in our marriage.
Someone who inspires me daily, Gary Douglas, Founder of Access Consciousness™ www.accessconsciousness.com says, “When you are not grateful for everything in your life, then you become the effect of those things you are not grateful for.” That’s expanding on “what you resist persists”. Not the most comfortable information and yet, life-changing. What if you were grateful for everything in your life – EVERYTHING? Yes, EVERYTHING! Try it for 24 hours or 3 days or a full week and see how your life changes. Well, maybe not – you can’t do that, it’s too hard. Sorry I asked.
I am excited to share that I have a new ‘professional’ certification – I am now a Right Voice for You™ Facilitator (a specialty branch of Access Consciousness™). I am so grateful to be playing with that information, tools and techniques. RVFY is focusing on ‘Giving Gratitude a Voice’ for the next few weeks and we are even running a 3 part teleseries on gratitude (you are welcome to join – LINK for more information
Another quote from Gary Douglas, “Gratitude is a major power…”. I could go on…
Hmm. Maybe I should change my website name to zesty, grateful, healthy life?
Everything I learned about joy and receiving I learned from my cat, Kona.
It’s time to buy a new perch for him and we’re getting the same one we got last time, through Amazon. I learned so much about being joyful and receiving fully the day I unpacked that perch! I can’t wait for this one to arrive!
It was a big box – Kona, of course, jumped on it and sniffed. Then I opened the box and he knew! Somehow he knew it was for him! As I put every piece together he writhed and wriggled in joy! He swarmed through the tube part when it was still on the ground! And as the perch grew upwards he jumped upwards and twined around it (and me) – purring madly. It was such a lesson to me of receiving with joy. He didn’t stop to say, ‘oh, you shouldn’t have’, or ‘that’s too much’, or ‘all of this for me?’ or ‘what can I give you in return?’. He just received it with pure joy!
And it started me wondering – when did or do I receive like that? With total gratitude and joy?
And you? Do you receive gifts or affection or the sun on your face after a long rainy winter or the singing of the birds or kindness from a friend…or…or…or…with unadulterated joy and gratitude?
What would it take for each of us to receive with joy everything that comes our way? The good, the bad, the ugly and the miraculous? To receive each day as a gift and be joyful? I have realized – it is just a choice! What do you choose? Do you get that it would change your life? (and maybe your money situation and relationships and more)?
As for me and my cat – we’re going to joyfully watch out the window for the delivery truck! And purr…
With joy and gratitude,
Zesty and Kona
Do you ever wake up worrying? or thinking of all the things you ‘should’ do? or picture what could go wrong with such and such? Or have those thoughts circling in your brain endlessly…endlessly…
Please meet your new best friend, Justan Ipov* (aka just an interesting point of view). The next time you wake and worry, think of Justan and say to yourself a few times ‘interesting point of view I have that point of view, interesting point of view I have that point of view’ and, I promise, you will lighten the load! and the more you say it the lighter it will be. Good friend, eh?
And, if your worry is with another person (or you’re in the middle of a ‘discussion’ with someone) say to yourself, ‘interesting point of view I have that point of view, interesting point of view they have that point of view’ over and over. Trust me, it works!
The thing is – those thoughts are just thoughts you make up and you don’t have to embed them in stone – there are other possibilities. However, until you make another choice (Justan Ipov) no other possibilities are possible. Does that make sense?
I’m not talking about the waking at 3am thinking, ‘I have to pick up the turkey tomorrow’. I”m talking about the thoughts like, ‘I have to pick up the turkey, I’ll never remember, I’ve got too much to do, when will I fit that in? oh, did I get the right thing for Barb or will she think I’m cheap, Bob wrote me a card and I haven’t sent one to him, what if the cat gets sick again on the rug, I don’t have time to get it cleaned, is there enough food for the cat until payday????’ etc etc etc!!! Try it! When your thoughts start going crazy stop and remember Justan Ipov and say it over and over and, guess what? Other possibilities start to emerge ‘oh, Jim is going to be going right by the butcher tomorrow, he can pick up the turkey’ and ‘I’ll send Bob one of those cute email cards, he’ll even get it on his phone’, etc. etc.
I’m going to be daring…and dare you to use Justan Ipov for everything for 3 days. Every thought, every worry, every but or because. When you do, text Zesty at 778-227-2257 with your results!
I’m so happy to introduce you to Justan Ipov, he’s my best friend, too!!
Your in ease…
*Thanks to Access Consciousness! What is Access Consciousness?
Years ago I worked briefly for an advertising company and one of their mottos was, ‘perception is reality’, and one of the cute-but-not-bright salesmen used to tell his clients, “perception is real!”. We laughed at him then for misquoting and…hmmm… Even science tells us now that what we focus on will expand or at least be altered. What we choose to believe and what we tell ourselves over and over becomes our reality, becomes real. It doesn’t have to be as dramatic as the story about the New York musician who was so worried about going blind that he would practice getting around with closed eyes or dark glasses and a white cane so he would know what to do if that ever came to pass and, guess what, he did go blind.
“Worry is using your imagination to create something you don’t want.” (Abraham-Hicks) What are you worried about? Worry is a good way to create just what you don’t want. We’ve all heard that phrase by now, ‘what you focus on expands’ – one of those clichés that makes people roll their eyes – and yet, we all know, deep down, it’s true. If every time we look in the bathroom mirror all we see is our expanding belly and we worry and obsess over our expanding belly well, you know, we get ever-expanding belly. (not that I have any personal experience with this 😉
So, my suggestion is stand in front of the bathroom mirror and see your body as beautiful and your belly as slimmer and tauter and it will make you stand up straighter and breathe deeper and, yes, if you keep doing that every day and every time you pass a mirror you will start making choices (perhaps in foods choices or movement choices or ?) that will create the slimmer and tauter belly (trust me on this, it led me with ease to Pilates and dragon boating and I’m slimmer and fitter and happier).
What about business? If you focus on and worry about declining sales/customers/clients, that is all you will see and all you will create and that is no fun and, at the very least, that exudes desperation and repels sales/customers, and will continue the downward spiral. What if you focused on the sales/customers you have, be grateful for them, ask the universe for more of that – more of the joy and fun and expansion of sales/customers/clients and choose that energy over and over. I promise that will create such a different ‘reality’ for you. You’ll become aware of new marketing ideas, meet new people, even get customers out of the blue (truth!) and more!
I hope you’re getting the energy of this. Our points of view, our decisions, conclusions and judgements (aka worry) create what shows up in our world. What if we choose to live each day in the energy of ‘What miraculousness can I be and create today?’
I’m your biggest fan!
What would it take to increase joy, pleasure and ease in our daily nutrition, and decrease the feeling of being buffeted and confused by endless streams of advice, fads and opinions on ‘what we should eat’? Zesty has some thoughts:
What would it take to be more aware of what makes your body happy? It might actually be more vegetables or more protein at each meal. Is it more fibre each day? Is it chocolate and almonds at 3pm or a glass of water with lemon when you get up in the morning? Are you willing to ask your body what it requires and listen to the response (and then follow that direction?) This process could be started at the grocery store so you have happy choices each time you’re hungry. Try this exercise: While at the grocery store go up to, say, the apple section and ask your body, ‘Body, would you like some apples?’ and your body will feel ‘lighter’ (and you might even smile) or it will feel heavier (like in the pit of your stomach). Choose what makes your body feel lighter. This may seem tedious, but if you practice this process, it gets easier and more instantaneous. And yes, when you go down the ice cream aisle you may smile and your mind might choose the chocolate mint, but, still ask the question, ‘Truth: Body, would ice cream be a contribution to you?’ Sometimes ice cream is a contribution – your body will know. (and, for more information on this approach to nutrition, please email Zesty to book a 45 minute, free chat)
Make some new choices each time you shop rather than falling into habits that might not be contributing to your nutritional well-being. I recently chose to explore a new vegetable to me – kohlrabi. I checked out some new recipes on-line and now have some new favourite dishes. Recipe What about investing in a dehydrator and make your own kale or potato or apple chips. (Even my kale disdaining husband loves my kale chips!)
Our 50+ Trillion cells require a banquet of nutrition each day to be in optimal, zesty health. Unfortunately, we know, even with the best of intentions, we aren’t getting all the nutrition we need from the foods we purchase today. Soils are depleted and even organic produce for most of the year travels so far to our tables that the benefit to our cells is negligible. An easy solution is to supplement our diet with a top quality multivitamin/mineral, clean Omega-3s and Vitamin D. This is what Zesty recommends – The Essentials – and it arrives at your door – how does it get any better than that?
National Nutrition month is nearly over – what would it take to zestify your nutrition every month? I hope my facebook posts and this blog have given you some ideas.
I’m off to sauté some baby beet greens as a salad base for lunch…
Yours in delicious, optimal health,
Yep, you read that right! Acknowledgize is a new word – combining acknowledge and actualize. Basically, if you want to create something new in your life, that is, actualize it into existence, then you need to acknowledge everything you’ve created so far. When you set a goal and achieve it and you don’t acknowledge it, then you go back to the beginning to try to achieve it again, because you didn’t acknowledge that you already achieved it!
There are lots of personal development and business books that talk about ‘manifesting’ something but ‘manifest’ means how it shows up. ‘Actualize’ means that it shows up. So all of us that have been saying for years, “I want to manifest $100,000 income this year” are actually saying, ” I want* to how it shows up $100,000 this year”. A more potent statement would be, “I choose to actualize $100,000 this year (and what would that take?)”
So, keeping with the income theme – what did you ‘actualize’ in 2015? Have you truly acknowledged that or have you just judged yourself as not making enough? Please, stop for a few minutes and acknowledge that you are a potent creator – you actualized enough money last year to live, eat, be housed, own a computer (or how could you read this?), transport yourself to work and back, go to coffee shops, feed your cat, etc. N.B. (and this is the important bit) WHEN YOU ACKNOWLEDGE THAT YOU CREATED ALL THAT – THEN YOUR BEING REALIZES IT CAN CREATE AND ACTUALIZE EVEN GREATER, IF YOU CHOOSE! (no intensity there…)
After acknowledging how amazing you are at creating – now you can ask, “what would it take to double that income, or more, in 2016??” (a few times a day is good without answering yourself or setting expectations of HOW). You will be amazed! Ideas and projects and offers and people and gifts will head in your direction and, you can actualize more in many, amazing, unexpected ways. Of course, you have to choose that and be willing to receive and have it…and then acknowledge it and actualize greater…
When you acknowledge, you’re actualizing, so it’s acknowledgizing. (Gary Douglas)
How does it get any better than that? Here’s a little video about acknowledging gratitude: Click here
(*to want actually means to continually lack, but that’s another blog.)
”If you had to choose a single nutrient that would help you ward off heart disease, cancer, diabetes, obesity, dementia, influenza, bacterial infections, depression, insomnia, muscle weakness, fibromyalgia, osteomalacia, osteoarthritis, rheumatoid arthritis, osteoporosis, psoriasis, multiples sclerosis, and hypertension, it would be vitamin D”. (M. Holick, The Vitamin D Solution, Hudson Press). (Purchase book)
What?!? Isn’t that amazing!?! But why? Vitamin D has an effect on at least 200 human genes and is critical in the normal functioning of our immune system and cell division. When our cells are short of vitamin D, the processes of cell proliferation and differentiation become defective, and, remember, our body replaces 300,000 cells daily. This can lead to abnormal cell division and thus cancer growth (or other degenerative diseases).
Now for the science
More than 2,500 published studies confirm vitamin D’s role in the prevention of cancer. Let’s look at one example of the many recent scientific studies: A four year clinical trial was done that involved nearly 1,200 women. Subjects were assigned to take daily: 1,400 mg of calcium alone, OR 1,400 mg of calcium plus 1,100 IU of vitamin D, OR a placebo. After only 4 years, the risk of developing any type of cancer was 60% lower in the vitamin D group. If you excluded the cancers diagnosed in the first year (because these cancers were most likely already present before the study) there was a 77% reduction in all types of cancer in the vitamin D group. In fact, scientists at the University of California, San Diego, now contend that low vitamin D status may be the root cause of all cancers! Wow!
The ancients of Rome, Egypt, Greece, Peru, even North America all knew that sunlight was healing – they just didn’t know why. Since the turn of the 20th century scientists have known that the body synthesizes vitamin D from sunshine and exposure to sunshine cures many diseases. Unfortunately, everyone living outside of the tropics, or living a mostly indoor lifestyle, simply cannot get enough vitamin D from the sun. We must supplement and the consensus seems to be with at least 1,200iu daily. (Although Michael Holick suggests a daily dose of 2,000 – 5,000 iu is perfectly safe, and Dr. Christiane Northrup recommends 4,000iu daily)
And vitamin D doesn’t just cure – it’s a crucial ingredient for a healthy immune system so we can avoid illnesses like the ‘flu. Biochemist Lyle McWilliam, (founder of the NutriSearch Corp., and author of the Comparative Guide to Nutritional Supplements) takes 7000iu of vitamin D daily during the ‘flu season instead of a ‘flu shot.
Don’t overlook happiness
And let’s not overlook the happiness piece…
My husband, Michael, has SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). This normally charming and extroverted man was a snarly black cloud for six weeks every winter and very hard to live with! Four years ago I convinced him to start taking a high quality Vitamin D supplement (3,000-4,000 iu/day) and Michael is now his lovely, exuberant self all year ’round! (This is the D we take)
I’ve just given you a tiny taste of why supplementing with Vitamin D is a must for us all in North America! (and, fyi, I’m a sun-avoiding redhead and take at least 4,000 iu vitamin Dᶾ daily, year-round!)
To D or not to D – no longer a question!
Yours, in happiness and health,
Shhh… Kona is taking a nap…
Did you know that you should take an afternoon nap? (Something else in the long list of things we should have learned at school!!)
Many high achievers and brilliant creators were habitual nappers. Winston Churchill first coined the term “power nap”, claiming that a daily afternoon sleep brought him the clarity of thinking he needed for wartime victory. Margaret Thatcher ordered her aides not to disturb her between 2.30 and 3.30pm, so she could snooze. Other illustrious nappers include Albert Einstein and Thomas Edison (not exactly your average guys), Eleanor Roosevelt, Leonardo da Vinci and John F. Kennedy. I recently heard Dr. Mehmet Oz tell an audience at a health convention that we are designed to take an early afternoon nap! That’s good enough for me… (cue yawn)
The renowned Mayo Clinic says, “daytime napping offers various benefits for healthy adults”, including: relaxation, reduced fatigue and stress, increased alertness, improved creativity and mood, improved performance, including quicker reaction time, better memory and even heightened sensory perception.
But…keep naps short. Aim to nap for only 10 to 30 minutes. The longer you nap, the more likely you are to feel groggy afterward. And, the best time for a nap is usually midafternoon, around 2 or 3 pm, when you might experience post-lunch sleepiness or a lower level of alertness. Naps taken during this time are also less likely to interfere with nighttime sleep. Sleep Foundation
And, what’s more – a nap can reduce the risk of heart disease. According to a 2007 study published in the Archives of Internal Medicine those who take a midday siesta at least three times a week are 37 percent less likely to die of heart disease!
Well then…excuse me, I’m going to join my cat…in a nap!
Well, we did it! We moved – lock, stock and meowing cat – from Vancouver to Victoria. And landed in a disaster zone – incomplete renovations, almost no electricity, no stove, very dirty windows and kitchen, no screen doors…(very apologetic landlord). And my husband was away on tour for the first week, so Kona cat and I camped out on the floor in one room (the movers had lost the unique bolts to put our bedframe together, too). I was stressed, to say the least, and very discouraged, but had two amazing companions to help me rise above: Our friend and neighbour, Barb, and Kona cat!
Barb was amazing – she cleaned, washed, and lined cupboards with me, well beyond when I would have stopped, and we got the kitchen ready for use! She and I heaved furniture and boxes around like navvies, rolled up the cardboard protecting the floor, unrolled our pretty carpets and set up the living room and dining room so Kona and I had somewhere else to live!
And Kona slept. He was sequestered for several hours every day so the electricians had free reign inside and out, and he didn’t protest – he just curled up and slept. So, I followed his example every day and napped while the drilling and banging continued. How does it get any better than that??
We’re still not complete unpacked and set up but, with my husband home and Barb and her brother Paul (equally as amazing), some of the rooms are painted, the windows are clean inside and out, the plants are transplanted – we’ve even had a dinner party!
I’m grateful for Barb and Paul and that I’ve learned to accept help graciously. I’m grateful for our beautiful new-to-us home (and the new stove!) and lovely new neighbourhood. And I’m very grateful for all of the de-stressing tools I have in my life! (www.accessconsciousness.com)
I wonder what can we create in our new space?
Well, actually judgement second, minute, day, week, month, year… What would it take for us to stop using judgement as the way we create our lives? Think about it – we judge our thoughts, feelings, words, actions, choices, to determine how we’re doing in life/biz/body/relationships, etc. We are continuously judging ourselves in order to decide what to do next. What if that is just an unkindness to ourselves? What if we chose gratitude and receiving and allowance instead? Would that lighten up your day and your world?
‘What?!’ you say. “How do we know what to do if we’re not judging ourselves every second?” Well, what if, when you made a choice, instead of judging you asked questions and used awareness as to whether you’re going in the right direction? Let’s use food for example: you’re running errands and walk by the bakery and dither about buying a croissant, and then go down the path of judging yourself as too fat, you shouldn’t make that choice, the butter is bad for your heart, etc. etc. Instead, ask your body if it would choose the croissant. My body said ‘no’ today, so I came home, chose grapes and a glass of water, and I was aware at how much more my body liked that choice!
May I offer another alternative to judgement: just to try for three days – and see what unfolds? Let’s use the body as an example: what if, every time you judged your body during the next three days, you said to yourself “That’s an interesting point of view. Body, I am so grateful for you and how you contribute to my life. I’m so grateful for your willingness to get up every morning and have energy to do things. I’m so grateful for your enjoyment of food and water and wine. I’m grateful for your strong legs that get me from place to place. I’m so grateful for my curves and curls.”etc. etc. You will be surprised how much better you feel and all the new empowering, acknowledging, even inspiring thoughts that come up and replace those judgement thoughts.
I am grateful to have Access Consciousness™ tools and techniques to play with and highly recommend them to everyone I meet! (and I even teach them, too!) www.accessconsciousness.com One of the things Access teaches is that when you have gratitude you have no judgement. How does it get any better than that?
Yours, in gratitude,